I lived in HNL for many years in the very desirable Kahala area and worked as a professional musician. I loved the work and met many wonderful people, felt well liked and respected and yet it was still difficult for me as a “Hoale”, for all the reasons you stated, there is just no getting around it!
Another issue that you didn’t mention is the “weather” – yes, believe it or not – “the weather”. You have to like sun, heat and high humidity all year round. The humidity improves with trade winds, but there are long stretches of time with no trade winds and the mugginess becomes unbearable. Food goes bad quickly because of the humidity so you end up throwing things out, yet another expense. The warm weather also means you wear summer clothes all year round; sounds exciting at first but boy do you ever get sick of the same season and wardrobe. I was happy to move back to the mainland again!
Peter, My wife and I are both British (but white) and my mother always told us to meet the person and not their nationality or color. Also, to be polite and treat people the way that you would like to be treated. So, I am not sure if your article and the letters are really saying that the way that I was bought up to respect other people does not work on the islands. Are local people only acting to others based they dislike of everyone not from the islands, or is it the way that people who move to the islands act when they interact with the locals. Like I mentioned above that you should be treated the same way that you treat others.
You are spot on with every point and more folks should be aware of these dynamics before moving to the islands
I can’t speak for the various comments on this post. The intent of the article is to give you a collection of reasons on why or why not Hawaii would be a good place for you. I would say that generally speaking, respect of others is highly valued in Hawaii. I can confidently state that the majority of bad experiences you hear about are a result of disrespect, though it may not be intentional.
I would visit instead
I appreciate the information, cost of living and such as for as pecking order I think its good for its as it should be. The example was set by the mainland. Youve given me much to consider and I thank you
Mahalo…i will save my time, energy, money, heart-ache, frustration, future suffering in paradise and buy a bigger home for 10 times less the amount in flagstaff AZ
Thanks for the article, Peter. We’ve been vacationing in Hawaii for close to 20 years now. We used to live in CA, then moved to MN and thought would seldom go back to HI from there, but now find ourselves visiting even more often (can’t stay away from Hapuna beach on the Big Island). We’ve always dreamed of owning a house in HI, which is why Hawaii Life visit the site right here is one of our favorite shows (too bad it’s been canceled). Thinking that perhaps after retirement living there for 6 months of the year (or more) and then going back to the mainland for the rest of the time. I think it all depends on the financial capability and expectations – if people don’t understand that, moving to HI can be a big mistake.
Thanks for the article I know young lady lives there with some roommates she came home to visit and told me the cost of living she in college she back and she loves it there . Thank you for the info.